Focus on the Positives

Focus on the Positives

If I could tell you a few things…

I’ve been realizing that I need to acknowledge the negatives that go along with getting older. It is great and helpful to focus on the positives; some being life itself, wisdom, tenacity, resilience, curiosity, freedom to become our real selves…but it’s time to get real about aging and discuss all sides of this complicated stage of being.

I am feeling frustration…wanting to conquer my fears and challenges that come with age…not letting them get in the way of fulfilling my passion and becoming my best self.

So, I am asking you to share your challenges and the strategies you use to overcome them.

Please do so, so we can uplift, support and encourage each other.

Can’t wait to hear and learn!!

The Tough Stuff of Aging..

I know this may not sound like a huge deal; but, I just don’t have the desire to jump up and out of bed the minute I’m awake. No kidding. More and more I’m feeling this. In my youth (my 50’s lol), I would run out to make it to my two hour workout at the gym.

Now, I enjoy just laying around for a while. Then, when I’m ready, I try to mentally schedule my day according to how I’m feeling. Too much in one day makes me feel totally overwhelmed. If I have a busy day, I won’t plan an outing in the evening.. and vice versa. Ugh!!!!

I know..I know..but this is my truth. Anyone else??

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Focus on the Positives

Reach for the Stars

If I could tell you just one thing…it would be to reach for the stars, why not?

If not now, when???? Also, I believe in making a plan to accomplish one thing towards that goal each and every day. Think with intention and just go for it!

The Tough Stuff of Aging..

I find that I continually vacillate regarding the work that I’m doing to build this community of Pro-Age Women. Sometimes I honestly awake and say sh•t I don’t feel like attending the meet up that I actually initiated!!

I ask myself why am I doing this?? I’m tired and I really don’t feel like dressing or acting the part of a thought leader or connector. So that’s the tough stuff.. the pushing my body and mind to keep up with my passion for my newly found purpose..but the good stuff is the freedom and awareness to accept my limitations and create my own life’s balance..oh, what a gift this stage of life brings with it!!!!!

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Focus on the Positives

Acts of Kindness

If I could tell you a few things…

The holiday season is the perfect time to do at least one act of kindness. It will feel as good to you as it will to the person you help.

So begin the new year with thoughts of gratitude. I’ve been wanting to begin a journal for so long and never got around to it. So, now I’ve decided to replace at least one daily negative thought with one positive thought in hopes of creating a new habit of feeling grateful. How fabulous would that be!!!!

Want to begin this exercise with me and support each other through it??

The Tough Stuff of Aging..

So, last week I had a meet up with a group of very wonderful 50+ women (remember I am 68). As I sat there, listening and observing them, I for the first time had thoughts regarding my decade plus age differential. I could see and feel the difference.

When I left, my inner response was a bit of sadness as well as what the f*** just happened!! I had not before recognized this with such intensity.

After much self-talk repeatedly saying “you’re doing ok, you’re not so old” I pulled myself out of this tough reality. Well for now anyway!!

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Focus on the Positives

Is 60 Really the New 40?

Is 60 really the new 40?? Or, is 60 simply the “new and improved 60”??

Can we really defy our age or anti age? Of course not! Then, why do we continually strive for that?? There are undeniable signs of aging that we can’t ignore; there are bodily changes, facial changes, mental and physical fitness changes. There can be health changes. They are all issues inevitably involved in the aging process.

We are constantly growing older; but, we CAN CHOOSE to not live or think old!!

Yes, we fight hard to keep these changes to a minimum through exercise, nutrition, mindfulness, fashion; but, truth be told, there are still challenges throughout each new decade. We have to make a choice; submit to them or challenge the challenges. I choose to challenge the challenges and want to inspire you to do the same.

This is what Pro-Aging means to me. It’s choosing to live positively; by utilizing our acquired knowledge, wisdom, sense of liberation, to expand our horizons and soar.

Look at me.. I’m on Instagram and enjoying every moment…meeting all of you, building a community, while sharing ideas, inspiration, stories and encouragement.

HOW FABULOUS TO BE A PRO-AGE WOMAN!!!!

If I could tell you just one thing…

It would be to uplift and encourage another to be the best that they can be…even if it simply means listening to her…step up and be present…it may help more than you realize.

“The Tough Stuff: Closing Comments from Meri”

Something that I’m finding interesting is the need to manage my days and my daily activities. By that I mean, I can’t fill up my days with one thing after the other. I need to break it up throughout the day…if there’s too much, I get overwhelmed.

So after grumbling and being hard on myself regarding this, I decided to use self-kindness and listen to my body and then schedule accordingly. What a difference this has made…both physically and mentally.

Anybody else feeling this way? Suggestions?

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Focus on the Positives

Walking the Walk

It’s been a little frightening and a lot of hard work..but, I’m walking the walk..and here’s how..

I am very excited to be working, very diligently as most of you already know, on building The Pro-Age Network. I’ve realized that I want to go deeper..dig deeper..have real discussions.. have true interactions..bringing our fabulous community of women 50 and beyond to life. We are in this together and together, maybe unknowingly, we are creating a new niche in life’s progression towards positive aging..what I’m calling Pro-Agers, the Pro-Age Generation.

I want to get to know you.. I want you to get to know each other..I want to create a safe space for content, conversation and connection.

As I believe that women are stronger when they stand together, I’ve created a membership community to take us to the next level; to collectively“rise up” uplift, support, and encourage each other.

Just to reiterate..at its core.. membership to The Pro-Age Network includes a bi-monthly publication focused on sharing inspiring stories as well as informational articles, written by experts in various fields, containing pertinent informational takeaways for living our best pro-aging life. The other uniquely distinguishable piece is an open invitation to monthly group calls for further discussion, connection and accountability.

My goal is for our network to continually grow and evolve into an interactive global community where everyone gets an opportunity to share their voices.

I’m so excited to continue this journey! Let’s take this ride together and see where it takes us!

I’d love for you to share your thoughts and stories. What would you like to talk about?

What would you want the community to look like?

If I could tell you just one thing…stay engaged in life, live with curiosity and start new hobbies or continue old ones. Find activities that fill you up and make you happy. Volunteer…Isolation is not healthy. Remain connected to others. So vital at every stage of life.

“The Tough Stuff: Pushing Ourselves”

At our stage of life, it’s not always easy to push ourselves. Some days, I just feel like hanging home; but, I know I feel better when I get up and out. So, I muster up the energy, both mentally and physically, and I go..to Pilates, or for a 10,000 step walk or just to the local coffee shop..and some times I don’t. So, keep moving as much and as best you can; and when you feel like it, give yourself permission to take it easy..do what your body and mind need. It’s all in your hands.

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Focus on the Positives

Thoughts on Aging

I’m not sure why, maybe it’s because my 50th High School reunion was this past summer (yes, yes shocking!!) but I’m struck by the need to share some of my thoughts on aging. As we know, aging definitely has its issues. That’s undeniable; but, today I’m thinking about the idea that where we are today is the culmination of all the years that have come before. For me, that’s 67 years..67!!!! How can that be!!

With all the twists and turns of life, here I stand. So the question is, WHAT NOW?? I am not “young”. I am not “old”. I am in between. I am what I call a PRO-AGER; that is, those of us choosing to age with positivity and curiosity. It’s not always an easy task…there are challenges…but there are always challenges. It’s how we respond to them that really makes the difference!! It’s a choice…and although the choice can be clear the road towards it can be winding as well as bumpy…

It is in this journey that we learn. It is in this process that we grow, that we evolve and that we thrive. It is in this process that we live.

If I could tell you just one thing…

It would be to uplift and encourage another to be the best that they can be…even if it simply means listening to her…step up and be present…it may help more than you realize.

The Tough Stuff: Our Parents

 One of the most difficult things, during this later stage of life, is the fact that our parents are most likely in their last years. How sad it is to watch as well as to manage! There are no words to describe it.

2014 is when this began for me with my Mom and it was the most heart- wrenching time. What I want to share about this, though, is how best to cope while you and your family go through this. Allow yourself to handle it in the way that works for you… no self judgement…no self-condemnation.

Do let others be there to support you. It is so important to allow this. You do not have to go through it alone.. a sense of family, as well as community, can lift you up when you feel like falling down.

As I’m writing this, it’s bringing me back to that time and it’s still tough to think about. So I’m turning it over to you.. I would love to hear your thoughts and stories of how you navigated, or are navigating, through this very difficult moment of time.

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