Meet Candy Costas
Beauty, Fashion, Health and Well-Being, Champion of Women
Co-owner and manager of a private pay nursing company that spans four states; Author of ‘Ginger-Bred’, a lifestyle/fashion blog; devoted wife, mother, and “Gigi” to two grandchildren.
Interview with Candy
1. Firstly, what conflicting thoughts did you battle while approaching midlife and beyond? My mother – “Ginger” – always said that life went downhill after 50, and always believed that a woman should act and dress “her age”. Much to the contrary, I enjoy life more and more with every passing year and at 62 have never been happier. I act and dress however it pleases me – not saying I always get it right, but what I do or wear is not directed by my age.
2. What are the positives of midlife and beyond? First and foremost: confidence! By midlife you have likely figured yourself out and accept yourself, flaws and all. It’s also great to enjoy the fruits of your labor, being able to regularly travel, dine in nice restaurants, shop more freely, and share these joys with your family.
3. What are the challenges? Loss. Your life can change in an instant, whether from a health issue, and/or a myriad of other possible setbacks. After 20 years of marriage, my husband left me for my best friend, and I never saw it coming. The same year, my mother (Ginger) passed away from lung cancer.
4. What strategies do you use to overcome the challenges? Knowing how quickly things/people that you love can be taken from you, I enjoy life and family to the fullest every single day, never take anything for granted. No postponement of joy: lots of hugs and kisses, music and dancing, always great outfits, always yummy food. My grandkids know my motto: “Work hard, play hard, enjoy every day!”
5. What words of wisdom would you have for the younger generations or your younger self? Don’t waste time – fill your days with opportunities to learn and grow and regularly leave your comfort zone. Exercise, eat healthy, enjoy your young body and stop obsessing on what isn’t perfect!
6. How important are your female friends and why? Tough question for me because I have never had many female friends, never been one to like ‘girls night out’ or typical female activities. Those female friends that I do have are like family to me and I treasure them dearly.
7. What attributes would you want in a romantic partner? Smart, kind, thoughtful, sexy, adventurous, outgoing, sexy, generous, well-dressed, sexy. Hubby fits the bill. 😉
8. What do you find most fulfilling at this stage of life? I love being 62! There is a peaceful feeling knowing that whatever struggles I face, I am not the first to face them. There is satisfaction in knowing that you can still look great, it just takes more effort. There is gratitude knowing that I have an amazing relationship with my husband. The best part of all: being completely content with myself, no longer trying to ‘fit in’, no longer sad if I am ‘different’ from others.
9. What fears do you have and what do you do to move past them? I am not unrealistic about the fragility of life, but I have no fears. I accept what comes and I am grateful for what I have enjoyed thus far.
10. Style is a reflection of who you are. What style reflects you? Bold and sexy, with a fun mix of masculine/feminine…in the business setting I am perfectly professional, a fan of sheath dresses and Smythe blazers…when the sun goes down, the heels go up and anything goes from leather shorts to an off-the-shoulder dress…animal prints, floppy bows, leather, Burberry scarves, Wolford anything – some of my favorites!
11. What place does nutrition, fitness and wellness have in your life? What do these look like for you? Truth be told, the main reason for my dedication to nutrition and fitness is VANITY. The side benefit is wellness! I exercise 6 days a week (30-45 minutes) and follow a diet that is high in protein and veggies, low in carbs.