Meet Dawn Solich
Interview with Dawn
1. What does pro-aging mean to you?
It means aging with curiosity, relevance and a fresh perspective that continues to evolve.
2. Firstly, what conflicting thoughts did you battle while approaching midlife and beyond?
I feel like my midlife started early–in my mid-40’s. My life fell apart—health, marriage and a real crisis of identity. I began therapy and finally had the first true glimpses of who I am at heart, and what I’m meant to do. Self-acceptance created a safe capacity for exploring parts of me that had been closed. This early work turned out to be a landing pad for the now-whats, empty nest, slow metabolism, and wrinkles. Turning 60 then just became a larger step on this progression of discovery.
3. What are the positives of midlife and beyond?
So many! It’s really true that we become freer from pleasing others, and to express and know ourselves. We have time to pursue our dreams, learn and explore. If we’re blessed to be financially stable we can pursue our passions unfettered. We have more to give and better emotional intelligence to connect with people.
4. What are the challenges?
Being really good with how I look. I’ve decided on fresh and vibrant as my guiding words.
5. What strategies do you use to overcome the challenges?
Botox and fillers. JK…not kidding. I use a light hand with freezing and plumping. The maintenance of face and body is a lot of work, but so worth it. I use anti-aging products and sunscreen, I’m active, workout, get into fashion, listen to new music, keep up with technology, try new things, and have younger friends too. And therapy…still! I try to look at the means, and not the end. It’s empowering to try—I don’t look so much at the results. And I don’t do any of it perfectly!
6. What words of wisdom would you have for the younger generations or your younger self?
Get to know yourself. Be you. Take risks.
7. How important are your female friends and why?
Aside from my sons, they are everything! My friends are the mirror that reminds me of who I am and what I’m capable of, when I can’t see it. They are the safety net that helps me risk–supporting me whether I rise or fall. These beautiful women are the inspiration for dreaming bigger and connecting me to my heartstrings.
8. What attributes would you want in a romantic partner?
Someone who is self-aware, who has used adversity to grow. Giving, smart, funny. Similar interests and values. And, something I connect to that, to me, makes him hot.
9. What do you find most fulfilling at this stage of life?
My sons. Though my sons live in different cities, when I’m with them it is heaven. How did they get to be adults that I like so much? Growing–the high from maxing-out as I push myself. New Experience–a fluttering when something new catches in my heart. Connection–loving and vulnerability with the important people in my life.
10. What fears do you have and what do you do to move past them?
A major health catastrophe–to trying a different way–to committing to something.
I try to feel it and stay in the mess with it for a bit. Then I go easy on myself with some grace, like I would with family or a friend. Eventually I put it down and then even further down the road, I start. Believe me, it does get picked up again and the process replays, but gets lighter and more fluid. As the thing becomes more rooted in me it flows more naturally to action. But it can take forever sometimes for the first step.
11. Style is a reflection of who you are. What style reflects you?
Pedestrian with an element of flair.
12. What place does nutrition, fitness, and wellness have in your life? What do these look like for you?
I do my best, but I’ve been carrying around extra weight for about five years. My weight has always fluctuated, but nothing like this, nor for as long. I think I’ve been unsuccessful because I can’t cheat through it like I used to. I love food, cooking, eating out, and sugar! If I could figure out the sugar addiction, it would solve the weight issue. I hate working out. But, I found a trainer a couple years ago who I adore, and that’s what keeps me doing it three times a week—ugh! I love to walk—especially around the city. And when the streets were empty at the beginning of the pandemic I started bike riding! I have been skiing most of my life and am mostly a fair-weather skier now. Mental wellness and discovery is a daily, crucial practice. I sleep well, and don’t suffer from anxiety.