A little about me, I was married 20 years and got divorced at 42. I had two children one was going in college and one was in high school . I met my second husband at 45 he was 35 and did not have children It was a concern of mine to continue the relationship knowing I did not want any more children. Once we both made the decision we never looked back.
I worked for AT&T for almost 20 years and was surplused at 59 years old. considering a new job I found myself feeling that I must lie about my age to get a job. It was a very stressful time. Three months later I found myself back with AT&T with the power to say if you want me back you have to take me on my terms which is Monday through Thursday 9 to 2 and I want to better title director of employee benefits! I feel so blessed and lucky.
1. What does pro-aging mean to you?
Not feeling I have to lie about my age. Finding people with experience so interesting, listening to what we all have to say. Feeling good at this stage I’m in!
2. What are the positive aspects of midlife and beyond?
Having the financial freedom I didn’t have for most of my life. Making it this far, my father died in his 40’s. I have seen my children grow into great people. Enjoying my grandchildren.Finding the love of my life who loves me and my kids
3. What are the challenges?
Seeing Friends my own age get sick. Physically knowing I can’t do what I used to do 10 years ago. Seeing my belly grow.
4. What strategies do you use to overcome the challenges?
I tried to be as supportive as I can to my friends that need me even if it’s a text every other day so they know I’m thinking of them. I try to do some form of exercise daily, I really try to MELT every day (soft form of foam rolling). I try not to eat anything white which includes my beloved ice cream
5. What words of wisdom would you have for the younger generations or your younger self?
Don’t be afraid open your mind and give it a try
6. How important are your female friends and why?
My female friends old and new are very important to me, there’s no competition anymore. I’d love to go out truly relax except everybody just as they are and not being afraid to be judged
7. What attributes would you want in a romantic partner?
Someone to play with, someone to have fun with and loves my kids. And truth be told someone who will spoil me
8. Do you have persistent health issues post menopause?
While while I was suffering with Very bad UTI’s
9. Thoughts regarding sex after midlife?
That would be the UTIs! Awful. I have a strain where there’s blood involved and until I found something that worked for me, I wouldn’t look forward to sex like I used to.
10. What do you find most fulfilling at this stage of life?
That I can have a part-time job that I love which affords me the time to do fun things, like sell my T-shirts and meet so many new friends all over the world. see my children, grandchildren, go out with friends and enjoy myself
11. What fears do you have and what do you do to move past your fears?
I’m very close with my mother we have breakfast every Sunday and we talk often. She’s 83 and had a big health scare a year and a half ago she’s in great health now and back to work but I worry about her. What helps me is that I know that she’s so strong and so independent and has medical insurance
12. Style is a reflection of who you are. What style reflects you?
Easy.. simple classic
13. What place does nutrition, fitness and wellness have in your life?
Very important! On the top of my list. From food to weight, to exercise to essential Oils to getting check ups and going to dentist”